Always feeling the need to be liked by everyone and doing things just to please our surroundings. Never saying no and agreeing with each and everyone to avoid any conflict. Saying sorry way too often even when there’s no reason and feeling guilty when something bad happens. Yes, people pleasing is exhausting. If you are, like me, a people pleaser, you would probably know how it can take every last bit of your energy and make you feel worried all the time.
Trying to please everyone with what we do and say, always feeling responsible for everything, whether it is how the other person feels or feeling like you have made a mistake and everything is always your fault. Apologising so many times that you start to say ‘sorry‘ instead of ‘hello‘. These are some things I am dealing with daily, spending way too much time worrying about useless stuff and overthinking the whole time.
My self-confidence is often based on the opinion of others and my mood can be affected by the way other people think of me. Always a million questions in my head; what if I say this? What if I do that? Is this going to change the way they feel about me? … It is exhausting and not a proper way to live. I know that just how I don’t like certain people for no obvious reason, I have to accept that not everyone will like me. And that it’s okay too. This is one of these things that are easier said than done. I have to switch my mind into a ‘I don’t care about you’ mindset and start living for me and not for others.
It’s my own choice to start living without caring about pleasing everyone, to accept myself the way I am and that there are still people out there that will like me – fingers crossed – for what I am right now and not what I am trying to be. I have to focus on being my own best self.